It’s a million dollar quest now-a-days!

Realms of paper have been written upon to help people claim there lives back. Where to stop and how to give themselves time.

And yet, as lockdown situations have continued and most of us continue to work from home, there seems to be an urgent need to get some respite from the blurred boundaries of work and life post work.

As Missus and I sat down for our Sunday morning, environment friendly detox hour, this topic came up today. I was wanting to get into this discussion with her as off-late, our schedules were going crazy and this wasn’t leaving us with much time for other things.

While we discussed and chatted about it for 15-20 minutes, there wasn’t a clear answer that emerged on how to handle the situation. But one good thing happened. It gave us time to reflect on what we have been trying in our own little ways and how it is helping or not helping us. This reflection threw up some interesting observations!

For one, until the laptop and mobile phone became ubiquitous, we pretty much had the evenings to ourselves. After work hours, there was a natural switch off that happened. Or how following a routine in the morning and evening, sans any device, has helped us stay sane and less stressed on the days we are able to manage that. Or better still, how suppressing the urge to attend to work emails / texts etc. can yield benefits, specially on weekends.

What’s more important though is to remember that we need to switch off. To rejuvenate. To feed ourselves. Something that a lot of us seem to forget in between all the humdrum of life.

I have seen colleagues and friends who constantly feel the urge to do everything in their power to respond to things immediately. They stretch themselves, even when it is not absolutely required, to deliver outcomes by borrowing time from their weekends and family.

While that may be the order once or twice, soon it develops into a habit and establishes a vicious loop, where the need to ‘Keep up with the Joneses’ takes over and prods us to outdo ourselves. And our colleagues.

And that leads to a culture that constantly demands more of us at all times and a race to the bottom. A demand that can never lead to much good!

So, which culture are we setting up in our team or organisation or for ourselves? Should be the biggest question we ask before we embark on anything.

Will perhaps help us maintain sanity in our lives and lead to longer careers with lesser stress all around!